Below is an image showing the Karpman Drama Triangle:
I was introduced to this concept a little over 2 years ago now and it has really changed how I think about myself, my thoughts, life experiences from the past, present, and future. Although I am still working through things, I am proud of how far I have come with this. Too many times in the past I reflect and can see how I didn’t realize I was playing the victim and didn’t hold myself accountable for the thoughts and choices I made along with where my life was going.
No one can do the work for you and it isn’t always easy but man is it so worth it when you can start to see more and more light at the end of the tunnel and around you. Taking accountability for your life and the choices you make can be extremely difficult. I know because I have done it and continue to do it. There are plenty of things done, said, and parts of me in my past that I am grateful have been left exactly where they need to be….in the past. I am grateful for all that they have taught me and I leave them behind with love to focus on being and doing better and becoming the best version of me possible.
Life can be tough and I know how easy it can be to just sit back and point the fingers while not taking any actions to actually change things. I did this for most of my 43 years of life and if I am honest with myself, I can see how it really hasn’t served me, my goals, my dreams, or my relationships in a positive way. From what I have experienced and seen, playing in this drama triangle really does not serve you or anyone else.
For me I think this was a key role in my realization that everyone has stuff they are trying to move through that you may not see or know about and nothing “done/said” to you is personal. With the helpful reminder that nothing a person does or says to you is personal, but a reflection of what they are currently going through helps tremendously in showing others more kindness and compassion. We all have our own struggles in life and by showing myself kindness and compassion it has helped me to move through so many life experiences in a much more positive and healthy way.
Part of this journey has also been about being more vulnerable which isn’t always an easy thing to do. Those that know me know that I have always in some way worn my heart on my sleeve which has come back to bite me at times. For several years this led me to becoming a little more and more “jaded” and I started to tuck my heart away for too many years now and only allowed those very few closest to me to still have access but even that was starting to become limited.
The Drama Triangle has helped me in so many ways and one of those is to allow my heart to be open and giving again. When I listen and speak from my heart I know I am on the right path. I wasn’t put on this earth to live a life as a victim or in a victim/fear based mindset. I was sent here to live in a way that follows my heart by living in the brightest light and using it to help lift up others and ignite the unique and beautiful lights within them. The victim mentally locked that away from me for a while until I could start to do the healing I needed to do. I am grateful for this new healing and although there is still some more healing to go I will hold pride in knowing how far I have come.
My goal in sharing this image and story with you is to help you through your journey or to help you have a little better understanding of someone in your life. To hold compassion and kindness towards yourself and others along with allowing your heart to be a little more open to receive and give love.
Much Love & Light Always!